Relationship therapists see it all: the healthy, unhealthy and somewhere-in-between couples. Here are some of the most common bad relationship habits they see and how to work through them.
1. Constantly Interrupting Each Other: A person who routinely cuts off their partner mid-sentence can leave them feeling “unimportant, irrelevant and unloved.” Therapist Kurt Smith recommends being more conscious of your communication habits and waiting for a pause in the conversation before speaking.
2. Losing Individuality in the Relationship: If a couple becomes too preoccupied with their relationship, they can end up losing friends, falling behind on goals and forgoing self-care. Therapist Nicole Saunders recommends using “frequent and clear communication” to allow for the reprioritization of time to take place.
3. Expecting Your Partner to Read Your Mind: When a partner places unfair expectations on their significant other, the gap in information can lead to negative assumptions. Family therapist Lynsie Seely says you should practice voicing your needs to your partner in a clear, honest way.
4. Being Obsessed With “Winning” a Fight: It’s difficult for an argument to be productive when both partners are more focused on “winning” than they are on resolving the problem. Marriage and family therapist Jess Davis says it’s important to remember that you’re a team and you should be tackling the problem together.